What’s Got You Trapped?
Understanding your trap type is the first step toward choosing differently.
You’re smart. Capable. Reliable.
You’ve done what’s expected, stayed on track, and kept everything together.
But deep down, something feels… off.
Most high-capacity people don’t get stuck because they’re indecisive.
They trapped in roles, routines, and relationships that no longer reflect who you are—or who you’re becoming because they’ve been trained to override their instincts and call it being responsible.
That’s what I call a Trap Type.
It’s the unconscious pattern running your life—and silently shaping your choices.
Until you name your pattern, you’ll keep calling it confusion. But once you do?
You get to choose differently.
The 4 Trap Archetypes: Which One Has Been Running Your Life?
We all have a dominant trap pattern—a way we learned to stay safe, liked, respected, or needed.
But what once protected you may now be limiting you. Let’s name it.
The Prover
“If I slow down, people might think I’m not capable.”
You’ve done everything right—and still feel like you’re falling short.
You measure your worth through performance. You don’t slow down. You don’t stop. You don’t ask for help. You’ve built your worth around what you can achieve—but now you’re running on fumes.
How It Feels to Live This Trap:
In Roles: You’re successful but secretly stuck in over-delivering.
In Routines: Stillness feels threatening. You earn, achieve, then move the bar again.
In Relationships: You’re praised, but rarely truly seen beyond your output.
The Pleaser
“If everyone’s okay, I’m okay.”
You’re always agreeable—but rarely honest about your own needs.
You say yes out of guilt. You silence your truth to avoid tension. You manage everyone else’s emotions while ignoring your own. People call you kind. You feel unseen.
How It Feels to Live This Trap:
In Roles: You carry emotional labor no one acknowledges.
In Routines: You overcommit and brush off your own discomfort.
In Relationships: You’re likable, but feel muted and resentful.
The Passenger
“I don’t want to make the wrong move, so I’ll just wait.”
You’re always “figuring it out”—but never really moving.
You second-guess yourself, defer decisions, and stay stuck in mental loops. You don’t trust yourself to choose, so you keep postponing your peace.
How It Feels to Live This Trap:
In Roles: You’re waiting for a sign instead of choosing.
In Routines: You’re researching, journaling, thinking—but not deciding.
In Relationships: You adapt so much you’ve forgotten your own needs.
The Performer
“If I’m impressive, I’ll finally feel enough.”
You’re admired, capable, magnetic—but you’re also tired of the performance.
You’ve built your life around being what people need. But under the polished image, you’re exhausted, disconnected, and silently wondering: "What’s left of me when I’m not performing?" Now you’re trying to remember what YOU want.
How It Feels to Live This Trap:
In Roles: You lead everything but feel like you’re losing yourself.
In Routines: You can’t rest without guilt. Even your self-care is a performance.
In Relationships: You’re the glue for everyone else—but no one checks on you.
Not sure which Trap Type you fall under?
Take this quiz to find out
Why This Matters
Your trap type isn’t a flaw. It’s a survival strategy that kept you safe, employed, respected, or included.
But if you're here, you’ve recognized that the trap has outlived its usefulness.
You don’t have to blow up your life to change it. You just need a way to make aligned decisions—without abandoning yourself in the process.
That’s what we do here.
One pattern at a time.
One choice at a time.
One untrapped move at a time.
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Because once you know what’s been running your life,
You can finally choose something that fits.