The Lies That Keep Us Stuck
Freedom starts with telling the truth—especially the hard ones.
You can’t free yourself from something you’re still pretending is working.
And I get it—sometimes pretending feels safer.
Safer than shaking up your life.
Safer than being misunderstood.
Safer than asking the question that might unravel everything you’ve built.
But pretending has a cost.
And for many of us, it shows up in the form of quiet overfunctioning:
Smiling through resentment
Hustling through burnout
Staying when we want to leave
Saying yes when everything in us wants to say no
And underneath all of that?
A web of quiet lies we’ve learned to live by.
The Lies Sound Like This:
“I should just be grateful.”
“Now isn’t the right time.”
“I can’t afford to change anything right now.”
“If I slow down, I’ll lose everything I’ve worked for.”
“If I say no, they’ll stop relying on me.”
“It’s not that bad.”
“Maybe I’m just being dramatic.”
We say these things so often we start to believe them.
But deep down, our body knows better.
Our body tightens. Our sleep worsens. Our resentment rises.
Not because we’re broken—but because the truth is trying to break through.
My Lie Was “It’s Not That Bad.”
I said it for years—about work, about relationships, about expectations that felt suffocating.
But my body was telling a different story.
So was my energy.
So was my joy.
I had to stop waiting for it to get bad enough to leave.
I had to learn how to trust invisible pain points—not just visible damage.
That’s when things started to shift.
Not because life got easier.
But because I stopped gaslighting myself.
The Truth Is What Sets You Free (and Yes, It’s Scary)
Freedom doesn’t always feel like fireworks.
Sometimes it feels like grief.
Sometimes it feels like shaking hands and a pit in your stomach.
Sometimes it feels like guilt for choosing yourself after years of self-sacrifice.
But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
That means it’s working.