Shift From Permission-Seeking to Self-Trust

How to Stop Outsourcing Your Decisions—and Start Building Real Confidence

In Tuesday’s post, we named the real cost of outsourcing your decisions—you felt stuck, waiting for someone else’s “OK” before you moved forward.

If you missed it, catch up here:

Today, I want to show you how to make the shift back.

Because this isn’t just about confidence. It’s about reclaiming your agency before you lose your way in other people’s advice.

First, You’re Not Broken. You’re Conditioned.

Most of us were taught—directly or indirectly—that it’s safer to defer.

• Safer to wait for someone else to co-sign our choices.

• Safer to double-check, triple-check, second-guess ourselves.

• Safer to follow someone else’s formula.

But safety and alignment aren’t always the same. The more you rely on outside validation, the more you erode your self-trust muscle because your decision-making reflex gets dulled by constant outsourcing.