Chemistry feels powerful: the spark, the butterflies, the rush. But sparks alone aren’t enough. Too often, we mistake intensity for intimacy and end up staying in relationships, roles, or opportunities that drain us.
In this episode, I share my own story of chasing chemistry, explain the psychology behind why sparks can override judgment, and give you 3 questions to tell if it’s true connection or just chemistry disguised as alignment.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The difference between chemistry (intensity) and connection (integrity)
Why the affect heuristic tricks us into believing sparks mean it must be “right”.
Three powerful questions to separate real alignment from emotional highs
A simple challenge to help you test one role, relationship, or opportunity in your life this week
Your Action Steps:
Run one situation through the 3 questions and journal what you notice.
Does this person or role energize me, or drain me once the spark settles?
Is my voice safe here? Can I say what I need without fear of backlash?
Does this align with who I’m becoming, or just who I’ve been craving approval from?
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